S9 E9: The Hidden Tax of Being the “Only” at Work with Amina Gass

Hebba Youssef
Hebba Youssef
September 15, 2025

Being the only at work isn’t just lonely, it’s heavy

It’s the unspoken pressure of carrying an entire group on your back while still trying to do your actual job, all while dodging microaggressions and pretending you don’t notice the side-eyes in meetings. Been there too many times!

In this episode, I sat down with Amina Gass to name the emotional labor that underrepresented folks shoulder every day, and we talk about how allyship, mentorship, and how genuine inclusion can make the difference between burnout and belonging.

0:02:05 – One Hard Truth About Work

0:05:02 – What Being the “Only” Feels Like in the Workplace

0:09:23 – How Emotional Labor Shows up for Women of Color vs Their Peers

0:15:18 – How Microaggressions Compound the Experience of Loneliness Over Time

0:29:30 – Myths About Representation That Should be Debunked

0:31:54 – What Does Support Look Like Beyond Token Gestures?

0:44:44 – If Orgs Were Serious About Change, What Would Look Different Tomorrow?

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Hebba Youssef
Hebba Youssef